
Transitions and Changes that Shape our Experience
Transition periods can be extremely difficult. They can sap all
the energy straight out of you leaving you bare and dry to the bone. They are
confusing, changing the course of your daily routines and putting you in the
constant need to make decisions, about everything, because everything has
changed.
Making a change in your place of work is one of these periods of
transition. I went through this just recently, leaving the company that I
worked for after more than 10 years. I was connected, to the people that I
worked with more than anything else, and severing these ties was the most
difficult. But everything else changed as well. My pace of work, my work hours
which affected my waking time and the time I came back home every day, my daily
assignments, different ways of doing work, not to mention meeting a lot of new
people and the effort that goes into building new connections. The list goes on
and on. And even though the decision to make this change was totally mine, I
suffered through this period. I did try to fight these feelings, telling myself
to give myself time, trying to convince myself that all this is natural, and it
makes sense. But deep inside I don’t think that I really believed this
reasoning.
Several months along the line, I can say that I learnt a few things from
this experience. First of all, we must always remember that work is work and
changes can come and go. Secondly, it really does take time. The body needs to
learn a new dance, a new rythm, and even if the change is a positive one (which
it usually is) it takes time to get used to, no matter what. And we need to
give ourselves that grace. We need to remember and tell ourselves time and
again that transitions are challenging and that’s expected and it’s ok. Talk
about it with people close to you; air these feelings, but not too much.
I believe these transitions can come in many forms in our lives –
getting married and even more dramatic when having a child. Moving to a totally
new place, changing career paths, getting divorced, and retiring.
Another tool that can be helpful is to try to flex our
“change” muscles, try to move our cheese once in a while, try to come
out of that comfort zone, try some new experience, challenge ourselves with
something that scares us just a little. It will all contribute to making that
next transition a bit easier.
Walk in confidence and take your time with it all. Good luck!